I didn't know that it was impossible, that's why I did it.

Jean Cocteau

Everything changes. You can make
A fresh start with your final breath.
But what has happened has happened. And the water
You once poured into the wine cannot be
Drained off again...
Everything changes. You can make
A fresh start with your final breath.
(Bertold Brecht, 1898 – 1956, German playwright, poet)

Mother of Claire, 15, got married again and, apart from stepfather, also brought a 15-year-old girl into the “previously happy” (according to the client's words) family. Jealousy and deep anger motivated Claire to cut her wrists in her stepfather's firm. She was found by  cleaning staff and timely brought to a clinic. Anger and fury are often mixed with sorrow and despair. Before she started her psychotherapeutical treatment, Claire focused predominantly on accusations, attacking and criticizing.

A person lingering in anger, rage, hatred, fury tends to generalizations: Everybody in the family is mean, always... -
Exceptions, cases of successful relationships in the family are not any more or hardly perceived.

A self-fulfilling prophecy comes true: if one gets stuck in fury and rage, his feeling of helplessness grows.

Young people also long for wholeness and safety in something which is beyond them. When people feel not wanted, loved or supported in life, not only emotional but also existential stress arises – and then they do not live any more – a thing which is specifically human – then they live against their own self.

Fury and anger towards ourselves

“Inability to settle one's own affairs”.
Existential stress: vacuum and meaninglessness
A way out: To go on search for meaning – what can I accomplish in this world?

Fury and anger towards others

“to feel dependent on others”
Existential stress: feeling of helplessness

To go back to one's own free space, to see the possibilities which are open, to make the last preliminary effort (I am doing the first step – unintentionally – because I stay in contact with my inner eminence, I do not get too much dependent on others – good things remain good – and leave their mark on the earth.)