Live as if you were living a second time, and as though you had acted wrongly the first time.

Viktor E. Frankl

To win back primordial trust..
..by strengthening the authentic “self” (“be who you are!”) is essential in every psychotherapy, whether for young people or those over 17.

..Primordial trust is based on the assumption that the essentially good and essentially meaningful is realized in a broader perspective, it is taken and retained in the “genuinely good” (Elisabeth Lukas, in “Restoring Primordial Trust” (“Urvertrauen gewinnen”), p. 51f).

Personal responsibility

To stress one's own free space, to be the master of one's own life, the respective situation can be managed and improved with one's own efforts, to cultivate attitudinal values and contacts in case of fateful circumstances, but also to learn to be alone (all-one – at one with everything).

Self-transcendence

To give proactive (instead of reactive) answers to the questions that urge into life: does anything fascinating attract me? Something essential, that should be answered by me right away? What questions urge into my life?

Motivate to live, to answer the “what for” question

Courage is the opposite to despondency. With courage in their hearts, young people can devote themselves to life. Courage makes us able to encounter the world again. The following questions can also be helpful: What is my deepest fear? What is that, what I have always wanted to do, what has always been important to me?

Posing the questions, always try to obtain a very exact description for the patients to get an inner image, to be able to recall it quicker – provide an entire perception training – to pay more attention to the healing and the grateful in life: What life task would mean much to me? What is high time for me to do?

I did not know it was impossible, so I did it.
(Jean Cocteau)

The conscious dealing with death – not only for our clients – our attitude to suicide is essential. Rejection of life, possible suicide and setting high goals in life become very apparent in the case of young people. Imitation in the infancy period as well as later acknowledgement of the authority go by, the young person wants to bring something meaningful into life using his power of judgement. The young person should open himself to the world with all those possibilities that are offered to him in their abundance. Through key experience, primordial trust can be then strengthened. The ability of a sensible encounter is our goal in psychotherapy, including suicide prevention. Young people do not directly ask what meaningful things they can bring into our world. In their case it is still more projective:

How do I feel our Earth?

What education could do?

What people do I want to live with?

Positive, good power can be sensed this way – to discover it in anxious young people is the goal of psychotherapy.

Uwe Böschemeyer stresses that success does not have to follow automatically, it can sometimes be arduous. The inner polarity between acceptance and denial of life, the fear to fail can prevent us from taking important decisions, from daring something new; lingering in the old and familiar gives the sense of security.